Yes, there is an orgasmic birth video. It’s a documentary on how women can have great, fulfilling births. And sometimes, even have an orgasm during labor.
It paints a very different picture than the normal portrayal of a woman screaming and having the worst time of her life.
The video is an hour and a half and free this month of March, 2019! The creators of the video, Pain to Power, are honoring women for national women’s month.
For all of March, you can have a free, digital 48-hour rental of this amazing orgasmic birth documentary.
I’ve watched it twice and want to share with you the points that stick out to me. The video has a lot more to offer than what I’m writing about. But this will give you some insight into how valuable it is before you decide to spend an hour and a half on it.
The documentary unfolds through the story of 7 separate couples preparing for labor and going through it. As in, you see them naked and the babies coming out. It’s great for someone preparing for birth.
If you love the video, Pain to Power offers birthing classes to help you have an orgasmic birth.
Pain to Power is all about having natural births. They even go one step further and recommend home births. Home births are done with a midwife present for those who are unfamiliar with the concept.
I had a natural birth at the hospital and think it’s a great thing to do. However, I do have an issue when people talk about natural births as if they are a right of passage.
Laboring naturally is not right for everyone. Some women can’t even get pregnant and labor at all. Just because they adopt does not make them any less of a mother. Choosing to have pain medications does not make someone any less of a mother.
Some of the mothers in the video do talk about how they believe natural labor is a right of passage. Other parents, who did have interventions, were thankful for them.
Pain to Power does a good job making note that natural is best while not discounting other labor options at the same time.
The most important piece said on this topic notes that women should be given all the information they need to choose the labor that works for them.
Unfortunately, we aren’t usually given that information.
To start with, no one tells us that an orgasm during birth is possible. We have to attend labor classes that are separate from our normal OBGYN care we receive.
Those classes may or may not be covered by insurance. Language barriers can exist with the instructor and learning material which impedes information flow.
The lack of information leads to birthing women being reliant on how the hospital wants to do the birth never knowing there are alternatives that may work better for them as an
The experts in the documentary support women getting all the info they need to make an informed decision to have the birth that matches them.
One of the moms in the video says it perfectly. She mentions that if you have a hospital birth just because it’s what everyone does, you’re going to miss out. If you have a hospital birth because you’ve explored your options and have decided that option is your best fit, you’re going to have the birth experience you want.
It’s all about information and giving new mommas the opportunity to choose for themselves.
The title of the documentary is Orgasmic Birth. It’s all about having a sensual labor.
The couples talk about doing a lot of kissing and touching during their labors. Dads are really involved.
Most of the births depicted are home births. You get to see how dads have the opportunity to hold their birthing mommas. That’s not an option in the hospital, at least, it wasn’t at the hospital I birthed at.
On many occasions, the dad can be seen sitting behind his partner holding her. One of the dads gets in the pool for the water birth and holds her and breathes with her.
The dads are able to be involved in a way that my husband was barred from during our hospital labor.
One dad mentions how his partner’s face was pressed against his all sweaty and she was breathing heavy. It felt like sex. They weren’t thinking, just letting the sensations move through them and holding each other tight, being present for one another.
To reinforce the sensualness of labor, the experts talk about how sex and labor are related. The same hormones are released during both, oxytocin and endorphins.
The same physical portions of the body are engaged in both. In the right mind frame, orgasms are possible.
But is it really?
It’s great to say that orgasms are possible, but questions arise in whether or not they actually happen.
I had my doubts. When I first heard about orgasmic birth, I didn’t believe it. I had gone through labor recently myself, and it didn’t seem possible.
The last birthing mother in the video had two orgasms during her birth.
I said something to my husband I thought I’d never say and he thought he’d never hear, “Come look at this woman orgasm.”
All you can see is her face and shoulders. The rest of her body is submerged on the other side of the pool lining.
She’s in the middle of labor and quite clearly has some enjoyable moments.
It’s great that they had an example for the video, but how often does it actually happen?
One expert in the documentary mentions a survey she did in her village in which 21% of the women self reported having orgasms during their labors.
When I shared this video with a
She had never heard of it before and was completely shocked when it happened. A google search was needed to learn what had happened to her.
One study found that .3% of births are orgasmic. That number is believed to be underestimated as it was midwives who were asked about witnessing an orgasm rather than birthing moms asked if they experienced one.
With how large a taboo it is to talk about orgasms, it is likely that many more women have them who don’t tell anyone.
My friend who experienced it was glad no one was there, including her husband, to see when it happened to her. And she had a hospital birth by the way. It’s not something that only happens during home births.
Feel the Sensations
One thing I really appreciated while watching Orgasmic Birth was the women mentioning when they were scared. It wasn’t all pleasurable. One woman in particular had an excellent midwife.
The midwife told her it was okay to cry. Gave her the permission that we think we need to feel the sensations of labor. She didn’t tell her to be strong and push through it. She told her it was okay to cry and yell if she needed to.
A couple of the moms in the video expressed how necessary they felt yelling was. It wasn’t always pain related. One equated it to the letting go kind of yelling that happens during sex.
The idea of feeling the sensations, accepting them, and reacting to them is not one we are given. We are given the idea to run from the sensations from labor. One obvious aspect of this is the pushing of pain medication on birthing moms.
But another is when we tell women to push through the pain. Deal with it. How rare it is to be told that it’s okay to feel pain, embrace it, and react to it.
Another aspect I noticed was the diversity in the couples who were filmed. They were from several different cultures. Some I’ve never heard of.
But one story
It’s a topic that isn’t discussed which is why I was very happy to see them address this very important issue in the film. I won’t give away the story. You’ll have to watch the video yourself to hear how she experienced labor in her own words.
The line I took from her story was that she was able to have a birth that made her feel transformed in her body. That’s powerful for a sexual trauma survivor.
Sharing Good Birthing Stories
Near the end of the film, one of the experts mentions that it’s hard to share a good birthing story. Those who experience it are afraid to make those who have bad birthing experiences feel bad. So they keep quite.
Hearing that made me think of a Kristina Kuzmic video I saw recently about clothes wearing. There are tv show segments and magazine articles dedicated to depicting who wore an outfit better and nitpicking the one who didn’t.
It doesn’t matter the subject, we are obsessed with comparing women. And if one women has a better experience, the other is dissed or seen in an unfavorable light. Even worse, we feel down if another women does better than us.
It’s a horrible culture that we need to change. We need to be excited for others having a good experience.
I would love to hear more great birthing stories. Watching this orgasmic birth
It’s relieving to know that there are experiences other than what I had and, with the right knowledge, I can have a better experience. We all can.
So ladies, say it with me, “I want an orgasmic birth!”
I really want to hear from you. Have you had an orgasmic birth? Are you excited at the idea of having one?
Don’t forget to watch the documentary that is free all month long. But remember, you only have 48 hours to watch it when you sign up for it.